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Tips On Being Present During Divorce Mediation


Divorce mediation is a great option for separating couples that want to come to the best possible solution without the extra cost of a hearing process or trial.

That doesn’t mean divorce mediation is easy. The reality of the end of the marriage can hit rather hard during this time. That is why it is so important to be present.

“Being present” doesn’t mean just showing up — although you do need to do that. It is a mental exercise you can use to reduce stress and help you make the best decisions. It is an invaluable tool when we are in a situation where emotions could get the better of us.

Practice being present before you go into divorce mediation.

What is the best way you know to be mindful? You can find mindfulness by actively focusing on your five senses; sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. You can find something for each sense even when you are in a boring office room.

Make sure you are breathing. Being conscious of your breath is another great way to be present — it also helps with stress. Do some research and see what others have found helpful.

The clear perspective mindfulness gives you is very useful during a divorce mediation.

Most of us are natural overthinkers. We tend to go way into a future we can not control or get trapped in a past that seems impossible to get over. When you practice being present, you may be surprised at just how easy it is to get out of those fears.

This divorce is tough, but it is happening for a reason. Both of you sought divorce mediation because you want to part on proper terms. So when you find yourself overwhelmed with overthinking, bring yourself back to the moment. The chair you are sitting on, what color is it?

Dealing with the here-and-now will make the divorce mediation a much easier process.

During a divorce mediation, the last mental obstacle you want playing against you is self-doubt. If you’ve made it this far, you are doing the best thing for you. Being present can help you remember this — and even believe it.

When you are present, you pause all the associations you place on people, places, and things and see them as they are here and now. If walking into this mediation seems all doom and gloom, try being present. All the negative feelings you have about this mediation will be reduced and all you have to deal with is right in front of you.

You made the smart choice to have a lawyer present so you can trust that your best interests are being protected. All you have left to do is the next right thing for you.

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