WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I SUSPECT MY SPOUSE IS CHEATING?
It is of paramount importance to pull together proof of the cheating BEFORE you separate. To know the best way to proceed we need to talk about why you’re suspicious. This is something to discuss with your lawyer or Private Investigator (PI). Why you’re suspicious will help better focus the best way to proceed, but to get you started we created this guide to outline general steps you can take.
So, you’re suspicious. What now?
It’s important to note the value of this tip will decrease over time as more and more folks spend a lot more time sending messages and using services such a FaceTime that will not show up as a phone call on your phone bill (we’ll talk about the phone itself a little later). Also, many times phone bills are not itemized bills that show all phone calls.
The way this works if the PI will place a GPS device on your spouse’s car, and will charge you a monthly fee for use of the device. The good news is that the monthly fee is much less than it would cost to have the PI follow your spouse day-in and day-out. A history of the car’s location should be accessible via a website, and this is where you come in. Take a look at the locations your spouse stops. If it isn’t obvious on the map provided by the PI then cross reference those locations with Google Maps, and figure out what is at these locations. Is it their place of work, to is it a bar, restaurant, hotel, or someone else’s home? Keep an especially keen eye out for locations your spouse visits when they tell you they are somewhere else.
Ok, my spouse is going to places that don’t make sense, or lying to me about their location. What now?
Your PI can follow your spouse, take video, photos, etc. of your spouse’s activities, and help you determine if your spouse is cheating, and if so, with whom. He can get pictures of your spouse having dinner with someone who isn’t you, in a bar with someone who isn’t you, or getting in the car with someone who isn’t you and driving to a hotel, going in, and coming out. This is a super important step. Suspicions are great, but for court we need pictures.
One great trick you can use once you have eyes on your spouse is for you to go out of town. If you have kids take the kids with you. Doing so will give your spouse maximum opportunity to meet up with their paramour, and, as a result, give your PI maximum opportunity to catch them cheating. When the cat’s away the mice will play.
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