TOP 5 DIVORCE DON’TS IN NORTH CAROLINA
Here are our Top 5 Divorce Don’ts:
What does ‘complete settlement’ mean?
A complete, or total, settlement means that once the agreement is signed the case, except for a few exceptions, is done. There is no revisiting the provisions unless it’s by consent of you and your spouse. There are no do-overs with ‘complete settlements.’
That said, you should consult with a lawyer before you sign any agreement with your spouse. Fixing, or trying to fix, a bad settlement agreement is one of the most difficult and expensive things we do as divorce lawyers. Divorce, and the legal issues involved, is not simple, and some expert guidance may save you a lot of money, heart ache, and time.
Your primary concern during a separation should be self reflection, and a quick and advantageous resolution of your divorce. There will be plenty of time for romance after you settle, and the relationships that come after a separation won’t be burdened with the stress of the divorce process.
If you must date prior to resolution of your case please be smart, and don’t shove the new relationship in your spouse’s face. You will only make your life more difficult in the long run.
More often than not these situations lead to one-sided agreements that do not serve you. Going along to get along in these situations is not the proper course of action. Divorce is not a situation where passivity is a wise course of action. A bad separation agreement can have lasting effects for your financial future, and your children.
Don’t do it.
If you can’t already tell, Divorce isn’t a time to be passive: Of course there are situations where days of depositions and exhaustive requests for documents make sense, but that should not be the default position. When you make the decision to spend the time and money to do these things there should be a clearly identifiable goal.
Everything your lawyer does should be calculated to give you value. If you don’t understand why you lawyer does something then ask. Your lawyer works for you.
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